Venus in Aries

On the first date you are wonderful. You pick the place, ask the question nobody else would, and make the plan for the second date before the bill arrives, and you mean every bit of it.

The chase

You enjoy being chased a little, and then you chase back. The message at midnight, the flowers on the wrong day, the trip booked before you have checked your calendar. Courting you is exciting, and the people you have courted remember it for years. Quick comebacks, strong hands and a little resistance catch your eye. Desire, for you, is simple and loud: you want, you say so, and a slow yes feels to you like a no.

You spend the way you love: fast, on the thing you want today, and you have never once regretted a trip. You fight fairly and fast, a quarrel with you is over before dinner, and the making up is half the romance.

The lovers’ net

In the myths Venus and Mars were lovers, caught together once in a net of fine chains while the other gods laughed. Aries is Mars’s sign, so your Venus is staying in its lover’s house, and it has picked up the host’s habits: it wants, it acts, and it hates to be kept waiting. The tradition calls this Venus’s detriment, far from its own patient Libra, and what it has instead is honesty.

The third year

In the third year you are restless, and you are not sure why. Nothing is wrong. That is the trouble. When the chase ends and love goes ordinary, you mistake the calm for the end, and a partner who needs time, who wants to talk it through, who is simply tired on a weeknight, finds your patience thinner than your passion. Boredom frightens you more than heartbreak does, and you have left at least one good thing too early because it had gone quiet.

The loves that last with you keep something to chase together: a new city, a hard mountain, a dare that ends in laughing. You still say it first, and loudest, and the person you say it to still believes you.